POLYAMORY THERAPY | CHICAGO LOOP
RELATIONSHIPS BEYOND THE DEFAULT
Therapy for individuals, couples, and polycules navigating polyamory, open relationships, and ethical non-monogamy with clarity, trust, and intention.
POLYAMORY THERAPY - CHICAGO LOOP
RELATIONSHIPS BEYOND THE DEFAULT
Therapy for individuals, couples, and polycules navigating polyamory, open relationships, and ethical non-monogamy with clarity, trust, and intention.
307 N. Michigan Ave, Suite 824
5-Mins to the L
BCBS, Aetna, & United
POLYAMORY + ETHICAL NON-MONOGAMY COUNSELING
For relationships that don’t fit the mold.
Polyamory and ethical non-monogamy aren’t problems to solve. They’re ways of loving and living that deserve real support. Whether you’re exploring new dynamics, juggling overlapping desires, managing jealousy in a polycule, or reclaiming joy after broken agreements, this is therapy that meets you where you are, not where a script says you should be.
POLYAMORY THERAPY
Therapy that speaks your language, not one that tries to translate your love.
ENM THERAPY
Ethical Non Monogamy therapy at Queer Talk is about skill, not ideology.
Whether you’re curious or experienced, polyamory therapy here focuses on relationship structure and emotional architecture. Using the QT Method, we address how agreements are made, how power moves inside a polycule, where jealousy or invisibility shows up, and how trust is repaired after rupture. This is not rule-stacking or endless processing. It is strategic work that helps you stay connected while navigating multiple attachments with honesty, agency, and emotional integrity.
Ethical non-monogamy requires clarity, communication, and the capacity to tolerate discomfort without acting from fear or control. The QT Method treats ENM as a living system that must be designed, tested, and renegotiated over time. Whether you are opening a relationship, recovering from broken agreements, or realizing your current structure no longer fits, this work helps you move deliberately instead of reactively.
THERAPY THAT CUTS THROUGH JEALOUSY, STIGMA, AND SCRIPTED ADVICE
Most therapists still treat polyamory like a problem to solve, or they bury you in basic “communication tips” you already googled. That’s not me. Queer Talk Therapy is built for people who want more than tolerance: you want fluency. You want someone who already understands compersion, NRE, relationship anarchy, and the reality that love and sex don’t have to follow one script.
I bring nearly two decades of clinical grit, cultural fluency, and irreverent humor to help you move past shame, jealousy spirals, or the exhaustion of managing multiple relationships without support. This isn’t about judgment or lectures. It’s about real strategies you can actually use to deepen trust, reclaim joy, and navigate the complexity of ENM with confidence.
WHAT HAPPENS IN POLY COUNSELING?
REAL TALK, REAL SHIFTS, EVERY TIME
We will skip the tired relationship tropes like “have you tried better communication?” Here, you’re getting a therapist who knows polyamory and ENM from the inside, who will call out the shame scripts you’ve carried too long, and help you carve out clarity you can actually use. I bring my full self, queer cultural fluency, and nearly twenty years of clinical grit to the table. Therapy here isn’t Poly 101. This is strategy, humor, and truth. You’ll leave sessions lighter not because you vented, but because you finally see what’s happening and what to do next.
WHY DO PEOPLE CHOOSE QUEER TALK THERAPY?
JEALOUSY, BOUNDARIES, AND BREAKING OLD SCRIPTS
I work with folks who are navigating jealousy in open relationships, struggling to set boundaries in a polycule, or feeling the whiplash of trying to balance multiple loves without losing themselves. Some come in after a rupture, an agreement broken, trust shaken. Others are just starting to open up and feel overwhelmed by fear and excitement colliding at once.
What they have in common is wanting a therapist who won’t treat polyamory as the problem. My approach cuts through generic advice and goes straight to what works: language sharp enough to name your needs, tools to manage shame and comparison, and strategies that help you create the connections you actually want. Clients tell me it’s both grounding and liberating, and that’s the point.
WHO IS POLY/ENM THERAPY FOR?
INDIVIDUALS WHO WANT MORE THAN SURVIVAL
This work is for people who are tired of cobbling together support from friends and online forums and want a space that’s both affirming and real. It’s for solo poly folks figuring out how to honor their independence, for seasoned ENM practitioners who keep tripping into jealousy spirals, and for anyone curious about opening up without losing themselves along the way. You don’t need to show up with a partner to do this work—this is about you.
Whether you’re kinky, vanilla, slutty, shy, or still finding your lane, therapy here makes room for all of it. The goal isn’t just to cope, it’s to thrive in the relationships you choose, on your terms, with confidence and joy.
WHO SHOWS UP FOR POLY & ENM THERAPY
Polyamory and ENM don’t just live in theory — they live in messy calendars, late-night conversations, and the tug between fear and freedom. The people who walk into my office aren’t archetypes, they’re patterns I see every week: the couple weighed down by rules, the partner lost in the shadows, the explorer craving more than one love, and the survivor daring to try again after heartbreak. Their stories show the grit and hope that bring clients here, and the clarity that comes when therapy finally speaks their language.
Rule-Bound Beginner…
Sam (he/him)
Sam wasn’t trying to follow someone else’s rules. He was trying to figure out his own. Dating felt like stumbling through a maze of labels and expectations. Every app profile promised freedom, but he often left unsure if he belonged. In therapy we treated identity as something to claim rather than prove. We explored his attraction patterns, built language for naming what he wanted, and practiced confidence in stating boundaries and desires. Slowly, Sam began to see that he didn’t need to shrink to fit someone else’s version of love. He could craft his own poly identity with clarity and pride.
Invisible Metamour…
Tasha (she/her)
Tasha was technically “in” the polycule but rarely felt seen. Plans were made without her, introductions skipped, her presence tucked into the margins. She bent over backwards to be accommodating, afraid to ask for more, until the resentment built. In therapy we named invisibility for what it was: erasure. We practiced small acts of self-claiming, voicing preferences, asking for recognition, saying no without apology. She stopped mistaking invisibility for generosity and began building relationships that honored her as more than a shadow.
Open Relationship Navigators…
Devon and Miguel (he/him)
Devon and Miguel loved each other but wanted room for other connections. They agreed to be “open,” but neither had a map. Devon worried every swipe or coffee date would trigger conflict. Miguel feared being replaced, and the silence between them grew heavy. In therapy we slowed the panic and turned “open” from a loophole into a practice. Together we built skills for naming needs, setting agreements that were flexible but real, and finding joy instead of threat in each other’s autonomy. What once felt like a crack in the foundation became a doorway to more honesty, more intimacy, and more choice.
Rebuilder After Breakdowns…
Lena (she/they)
Lena had tried ENM before, but what she got was cheating disguised as poly. Promises broken, secrets kept, heart wrecked. She wanted to believe in expansive love again, but every new connection felt like walking through a minefield. In therapy we honored the grief and anger instead of rushing past it. We separated betrayal from polyamory, built language for consent and repair, and created space for slow trust. What once felt like danger began to feel like possibility.
ABOUT THIS WORK
Not poly 101. This is the work of relationship architecture and romantic freedom.
Polyamory and ENM therapy for individuals, couples, and polycules navigating the architecture of expansive love. Strategic work on relationship design, jealousy, agreements, power dynamics, and repair.
Who this is for: People already living in poly or ENM structures who need advanced relational work. Not Poly 101. Not damage control. Design, repair, and recalibration for those who know the basics but need deeper navigation.
Individual Therapy
Love on your terms
- Your own relationship to structure, autonomy, and desire
- Jealousy patterns and compersion blocks
- Identity shifts as your relationships evolve
- Navigating multiple partnerships
Poly Therapy
Copules and Polycules
- Poly relationship design and redesign
- ENM agreements that actually hold
- Communication breakdowns and repair
- Power dynamics and equity across partnerships
- Transitions: opening up, closing, adding or losing partners
— A FEW COMMON QUESTIONS
Miss Betty, Chief Vibes Officer
Before you book, some things Betty wants you to know.
What kinds of clients tend to work well here?
People who want traction.
That includes LGBTQ+ clients and straight clients who are not looking for a generic therapy experience.
Therapists who are used to being the most self-aware person in the room.
People in sex work. Poly and nontraditional relationship structures. Bi men married to straight wives. People whose lives are a little off-template and do not benefit from being simplified.
LGBTQ therapy in Chicago should be able to hold that kind of range.
Is therapy in person or online?
Most sessions are held in person at our Chicago Loop office, 307 N. Michigan Ave, Suite 824. The first consultation is a free 30-minute video call.
Telehealth in Illinois is available on a limited basis depending on the clinician, including a Spanish-speaking option starting in late May.
Do you have more than one therapist?
Yes. Queer Talk Therapy is growing with clinicians who reflect the community and the complexity of the lives we work with. Our team includes bilingual Spanish-speaking support and offers both in-person therapy in the Chicago Loop and telehealth across Illinois, depending on the clinician.
Do you offer sliding scale or different fee options?
Yes. Session fees vary depending on the clinician, with a range of options to support different needs and levels of access. The goal is to offer flexibility without diluting the work.
What if I call it counseling, not therapy?
That is completely fine. Whether you are searching for LGBTQ therapy in Chicago, LGBTQ counseling in Chicago, or an LGBT therapist in Chicago, the work here is the same: direct, structured, and built for change.
What insurance do you accept?
BCBS, Aetna, and United PPO are accepted.
Will there be a dog in the office?
Sometimes. Betty, the office dog, may be present during sessions. She is friendly, calm, and a quiet part of the space for many clients. If you prefer a dog-free session, she can stay home. Just let us know what works best for you.
A CLEARER PLACE TO START
Ready when you are.
NOT A COMMITMENT. A CONVERSATION.
A free 30-minute consult is a simple first step.